Well once again sorry it has been awhile since I have posted. I find myself saying that very often. Well my absence from the blogging world is very easily explainable. I have been talking to Danny. That's right, practically everyday for the past 2 weeks. Usually we hardly ever caught each other online because the times he was on I was in school. Well now that school is out we are talking all the time. I have more time and he has found himself with less missions. He is down to one or two a day (yes I said down to, I think his CO is going for a record or something). In two weeks I have gone two days without iming him and on those days he emailed me. I have also gotten 3 phone calls in 3 weeks. This is so rare for me. Usually I would get an email every 3 to 4 days, a phone call whenever he had time (usually once or twice a month) and we would catch each other online maybe once or twice a month. I love being able to talk to him all the time. It is so strange running out of things to talk about. And what is even more strange is that I love running out of things to talk about. It feels like we have a normal relationship again without the restraints of distance and war. I feel so blessed lately. Now that I have explained the wonderful reasons to be away from the blogging community (although I did miss you ladies), I can move on to the things I have been meaning to post about for awhile.
I read a post about a deployment being couples therapy. This got me thinking. I agree 100%. Lately, my friends have all been having problems with their relationships and they have been coming to me for advice because they see how good me and Danny's relationship is. And I noticed a trend in problems. Lack of good communication skills and taking advantage of what they have. Well, listening to all of my friends' problems made me realize how lucky Danny and I are. See before he was deployed he was stationed in Texas, and I still lived in Missouri. He would call me everyday for hours and hours and I would see him once a month. He would stay with his parents, just 10 miles away. Well because of our distance we were forced to develop great communication skills. This is very beneficial to a relationship I realized. These skills enable us to talk through every problem we have within an hour. Granted the distance does make it hard for us to get used to each other's mannerisms and causes other problems you can only imagine but once again our communication skills prevail and we work through those problems. This distance also made us value each other and the time we spent together. People in relationships where they see each other all the time, sometimes tend to get comfortable and feel they don't have to try anymore (not everyone but some people). Well because Danny and I don't see each other we value every second and I think that we will for quite some time because we will remember the times that we couldn't see each other. And this deployment has only made us stronger. We have learned not to fight over petty things. We don't let things bother us like they used to because we never know when we will be able to talk to each other again. This whole experience has only made our relationship better. Although it still sucks that he is gone. But I am going to focus on the positive for as long as I can.
